Reached a conclusion similar to E. Tolle that people may loose other dear people in life because of insecurity. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Any insecurity is dangerous. It turns out that we are all insecure if we don't secure ourselves properly. No exceptions. Don't secure yourself from outside but always from the inside. That is what religious people have been doing for ages. We have no control over so many aspects of our lives - that it is beyond belief.